I'm sorry it was lowered. That really blows. But like you said $183.50 of nothing is still nothing. Sounds just like my little sister's situation. *hugs* I'm sorry.
I'm sorry too. But at least it's more than $140, which is what you were hoping. And significantly more than the $25 the scumbag was seeking. Any reduction is an insult but I think you fared pretty well.
I think my biggest suprise was that I was OK with it. Took a few minutes for me to realize that. Chances are his lawyer will appeal the decision but i'm pretty sure it will hold. Now if we could just make him pay it...course that will happen about the time cows fly.
What a horrible thing. I'll never understand men who run form their responsabilities.
Man, he's getting of light. Here in Massachusetts we'd have tarred and feathered him by now...
Lowered child support...I'll never understand why this happens. And the fact that a lot of men (and I'm sure some women) have to be forced to take care of their children...why wouldn't they WANT to? *hugs*
I have a friend who deals with the same crap. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. No one should have to worry about whether or not child support will actually be paid or not. And lowering the amount? WTH?
I know it sucks hun but I want to take the glass half-full approach.
It is better than nothing. It is better that $25 and it is better than $140. The courts will make him pay. Even if they have to garnish his wages.
I say good for you Kara!
I'm really ok with this amount, but the truth is, he wont pay it. He hasnt paid in 11yrs. In that 11yrs, he has never held a job that they could find in order to garnish. If he works at all, it's under the table, truth probably is he is doing illegal activities as per usual course of action for him.
What a piece of shit!!!
Was this man anything like this when you met him?
When I first met him i was twenty yrs old, naive, and blinded by his confidence and not a little bit of lust. He was working 7days a week at a car audio shop. For a year that he was with me he played it straight. After six months of dating him I found out about his past but being young and stupid, I decided he had changed. Shortly before I found out I was expecting Kendell, he went back to his old ways. That's when I broke it off with him. He only got worse from there. Told me once when I was pregnant that he was glad that I was such a good person, that I would be a good mother. Not like this other girl he got pregnant, she was a gang banger. He had some girls beat her till she lost the baby... That's the last conversation I had with him as a young girl. I grew up quick. Got smart.
It's still something, but it still sucks. Ass.
moral victory at least. does he have any things? a car? a house? seems like i knew someone who seized some property once to have it auctioned for arears in child support. doesn't matter if it is paid or not.
yeah, one of my sisters has a similar problem. never had a dime of child support.
You are okay with this, Karamia, because you are so strong. That has been evident long before now, but this certainly proves it once again.
You have not survived the last 11 years without this dick head; you've THRIVED...don't believe? Take a look at yourself and that wonderful son of yours.
While I wish things could be easier for you financially, you've given Kendell more riches then most children ever receive.
Grrr. Anger. But I'm so proud of you. I admire you.
Wow! That was interesting. Don't you ever wish you could talk to that young woman? I had something pretty similiar happen to me when I was quite young but I didn't get pregnant. Men are bizarre, aren't they?
Ain't that the truth and doesn't it just suck?
Well, it could have been so much worse.
Yes, it isn't just the men that run. And unfortunately, I think when it comes to the mother (and man, I'm using that word loosely in these particular situations) the authorities are even less inclined to pursue the matter. You know, because the man is the breadwinner. And it isn't the normal custody arrangement for the man to have custody.
Not like it makes the CS any less needed.
I guess they forget that money is for the child(ren).
Wow, I have been there, and still AM there. My ex has paid the same piddly amount since we were divorced almost 5 years ago. And when he lost his job and refused to pay, I took him to court and MADE him pay. Now he has the nerve to suggest that the child support should be LOWERED because I make more money than he does now.
Never mind that as the kids get older they get MORE expensive, or that this year is the first year he has ever paid one penny toward any of their extracurricular activities. One Christmas he didn't send any presents, not even a CARD! because he said he couldn't "afford" it. Ex-husbands are slime!!!!!!!!!
You are like me, Kara. You take care of your child because it is your privilege and your responsibility, not because you "have to".
Sorry for the long comment. It's a touchy subject with me.
I just don't know what to say.
I'm sorry and I'm happy. For you and K. About you and K.
You are sooo adorable...why would anyone treat you that way. The world has a strange way doesn't it.
Here's to wishing you a major windfall, someone to share your life with (other than K) if that's what you want and the best of health. You deserve it.
I'm with ƒåυνέ -- you're ok with it because you're strong and you to take care of your responsibilities. It sucks. He should be a better person but he's not. You and Kendell are so blessed to have each other. Here's hoping you get some good news soon.
They should put his ass in jail for not paying.
I feel for you and I know how it is. I am glad that you are ok with it, b/c sometimes the rage can take over and thats not good....I know.
I'm a recovering single mother trying desperately to see humor in my day to day toil while simultaneously avoiding reality as much as humanly possible.